Compliments and Flattery

Compliments are a delicate and very intricate concept. They should be treated with cautiousness – if you want to be good at paying them right and reacting to them wisely that is. They have more or less loud and clear boundaries within such things as flattery or

Compliments and flattery are two different notions, that's a fact. Some people, who are quite ignorant regarding the art of complimenting, manage to combine them in one and make the most of this often very explosive mixture by uncouthly flattering instead of sophisticatedly complimenting.

Flattery is typically represented by extra amount of sugary words and underdeserved praises directed at a person who is either powerful regarding the complimenter's certain pragmatic goals and wishes. Flattery hardly ever implies sincerity or spontaneity. It's all about well-planned intentions to sugar somebody's vanity for it to be well-paid-off in return.

While compliments – the ones that prompt trueness and genuineness are totally different. Certainly, they are allowed to be slightly exaggerated but this exaggeration should be based on disinterested and unselfish motives only. Otherwise, these compliments might acquire a flavour of flattery or even turn into pure flattery once and for all.